Comments on: Ack! I’ll never be able to do this!

By: sean

sean — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 19:37:15 +0000

Hi, Havi!

I’m very proud of myself so far. Because I practiced the positions while I waited for the DVD to come, and now I am putting the DVD in every morning/afternoon for about five minutes of practice (can’t do more than that or my arms start to hurt and feel heavy and tired).

I am so happy that the DVD spends more time in my DVD player than anywhere else!

I am also journalling my experiences to see what changes are occuring. Scary & exciting!

Thanks for listening.

By: Jennifer Louden

Jennifer Louden — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 18:35:32 +0000

I love that you reminded me that it took you years because certainly ONE of the many patterns I'm seeing is feeling defeated that it is so hard.. and then I remind myself YOU ARE GETTING BENEFITS RIGHT NOW who the fuck cares where I get and by when?? Practice is beautiful. Thanks for listening. Jennifer Loudens last blog post..Comfort During Fearful Times: Acknowledgement Sweetie Baby Honey

By: Sari

Sari — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 11:52:25 +0000

That thing about being scared of becoming this phenomenally phenomenal person – right on the money here. I’ve been doing Shiva Nata for a few months, and every now and again I get this “What’s going on with me?! Am I allowed to be this phenomenally phenomenal person I’m apparently becoming?!” crazy scary feeling. And then I stop doing the dance. And then a few days later I get back on the routine with an “It’s all right to be phenomenal!” self-assuring pat on the back. Rinse and repeat every few weeks. The fun part? I’m beginning to recognise it as a pattern. As well as starting to notice my perfectionism yield bit by bit to a “Wow, I messed up? How cool is that! I wonder what happened there…” -attitude. Not with big responsible things (like driving), but with e.g. study assignments or social situations.

By: GirlPie

GirlPie — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 17:55:59 +0000

Wow… comments as useful as the post! First look at this site/blog, despite having crawled all over FluentSelf and kinda having the Starter Kit at the top of my “Merry Christmas to me” list… Love Tatiana’s idea about the ‘mistake’ clip — now I’ve got to go find the video under discussion, if it’s still here.

I knew you were busy, but MAN! Impressive use of the same 24 hours I (apparently) squander~!

By: James | Dancing Geek

James | Dancing Geek — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 15:36:09 +0000

Don’t take down the video. But yes, yes, yes to a video about what to do when you make a mistake. I doing what I normally do when something doesn’t quite work the first time (keep going until I get it right or my body/brain says “we need a break”) but some idea of what it looks like for a newbie to have a go would be great.

In fact, darn it, I’m gonna post a vid of me getting it wrong. In a bit. After I get over how terrifying an idea that is. And I finally finish getting the blog software up and running with my first posts.

*deep breaths*

By: Shannon "Boring & Irrelevant" Wilkinson

Shannon "Boring & Irrelevant" Wilkinson — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 15:30:41 +0000

You know why I’m doing this? Because you just gave me permission to GET IT WRONG. My big pattern? Wanting to GET IT RIGHT. Okay, I’m sure that I’m not the only one with that pattern, but it keeps me from doing stuff I’d love to try, because I don’t want to GET IT WRONG.

I need a little more getting it wrong in a safe way in my life, so I can get comfortable with getting it wrong, or different, or not yet right, or whatever, in a big way in the world.

And I’m sure more. Even though I too, have a little niggling worry that maybe I’m the only one who won’t get it at all, WRONG or RIGHT.

Oh, and don’t take the video down. I love watching it. It’s so mesmerizing.

By: Tatiana Franey

Tatiana Franey — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 11:53:16 +0000

Hi Havi

It’s posts like these that make me love you! I didn’t have a chance to comment on yesterday’s post, but this is exactly what I meant to say yesterday:

- maybe put a video up that shows you “making a mistake”. just so that people see how it works. when you make a mistake do you stop? do you take a break and have some tea? a nap? or you just take a breath and try again? that kinda thing
- maybe add an FAQ page with a bit of the history of the dance, who is the first kick-ass specialists on it and how you got involved in it?

posts like the one you have done today are so encouraging for all the scaredy procrastinators out there!!!

and no, i have not bought your starter kit yet, as for the moment i’m happy to be making mistakes during my shadow yoga practice! i’ll move on to different mistakes next year :)

take care
tatiana

Tatiana Franeys last blog post..just one more thing about procrastination…

By: Havi

Havi — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 04:56:37 +0000

Oh Lynn! You are absolutely allowed to be scared! As you know. :)

And yeah, it’s also a pattern — and a completely normal one — to think that you’ll be the one person who won’t get any epiphanies.

I didn’t even know about the epiphanies and I was still suspicious and annoyed by pretty much every part of the practice.

Anyway, as long as you keep challenging yourself and doing the parts that are impossible for you to do, the epiphanies pretty much have to show up.

Yay for you for opening it. More than I did in the first few months! :)

By: Lynn Crymble

Lynn Crymble — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 03:45:44 +0000

Oh Havi, I am scared!! But also totally excited about the epiphanies. Mind you, I can’t help but think “I bet I won’t get any”. This is one of those patterns I have to deal with.
Thanks for this post. It’s late but I’m going to put that DVD in now just so I can at least say I’ve opened it and then go from there.
I heart you for doing this.